The thought has occurred to me that many who read my unfolding narrative will conclude that the end product is narcissistic. Indeed, that assessment may be more accurate than unjust but the alternative is that the stories I have to tell will fade into oblivion just like my parents’ did and that, I think, would be a far greater travesty than trampling on some reader’s limited sense of self or contrived sense of social correctness.
So to really understand who I am, I thought it might be useful to consider the results of an analysis that was conducted a couple decades ago when it was determined that I fit the Myers-Briggs description of an INTJ pretty much to a T. Reflecting upon my life and the stories I have recounted, I’m hard pressed to disagree with that assessment.
Myers-Briggs defines the INTJ temperament/personality as follows:
I – Introversion is preferred to extroversion. INTJs tend to be quiet and reserved. They generally prefer interacting with a few close friends rather than a wide circle of acquaintances, and they expend energy in social situations (whereas extraverts gain energy).
N – Intuition is preferred to sensing. INTJs tend to be more abstract than concrete. They focus their attention on the big picture rather than the details and on future possibilities rather than immediate realities.
T – Thinking is preferred to feeling. INTJs tend to value objective criteria above personal preference. When making decisions they generally give more weight to logic than to social considerations.
J – Judgment is preferred to perception. INTJs tend to plan their activities and make decisions early. They derive a sense of control through predictability, which to perceptive types may seem limiting.
The following are summations of extracts from various INTJ descriptions I have found on the internet. INTJs tend
- to pride themselves on their independence;
- to reject authority when it is based on tradition, rank, or title rather than merit;
- to believe that feelings should be subordinated to logic;
- to challenge assumptions;
- to rely on fact, not opinion;
- to know and accept their strengths and limitations;
- to know not only what they know but what they don’t know;
- to be very pragmatic;
- to avoid making decisions without first thoroughly considering alternatives and consequences;
- to approach problems looking for solutions outside the box;
- to prefer to work alone;
- to take the lead only when their leaders aren’t up to the task;
- to appear cold, indifferent, and/or insensitive;
- to believe that small talk and social rituals are pretty much a waste of time;
- to place greater value on relationships at work than play;
- to place great value on harmony and consistency;
- to subordinate their own desires when they perceive a need in others; and
- to be loyal and protective.
Between 12 and 15 is average.
Celebrities often score closer to 18.
Narcissists score over 20.
This trait refers to whether a person feels they are more superior than those around them.
This trait refers to a person’s need to be the center of attention, and willingness to ensure they are the center of attention (even at the expense of others’ needs).
This trait refers to how willing you are to exploit others in order to meet your own needs or goals.
This trait refers to a person’s vanity, or their belief in one’s own superior abilities and attractiveness compared to others.
This trait refers to the expectation and amount of entitlement a person has in their lives, that is, unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with one’s expectations. People who score higher on this trait generally have a greater expectation of entitlement, while those who score lower expect little from others or life.
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