The title of this anecdote fairly represents the decision making process of a 19-year-old who — upon being told by his father a week before his scheduled nuptials that his girlfriend isn’t pregnant after all — is asked if he intends to go through with the wedding. It also describes the same young man’s dilemma when he wakes up 25 years later wondering if the last years of his life will be as unfulfilling as the previous quarter of a century.
Following a three month separation, his younger daughter (soon to turn 18) informs him that if he divorces her mother she and her older sister have vowed never to speak to him again. He is naturally torn by the ultimatum.
The final decision is made a couple of weeks later when his wife inadvertently reveals that she clearly understood the basis of their marriage all along. “You wouldn’t be doing this if your father was still alive.”
The silence these past 18 years has been palpable.