Posts Tagged ‘INTJ’

The thought has occurred to me that many who read my unfolding narrative will conclude that the end product is narcissistic. Indeed, that assessment may be more accurate than unjust but the alternative is that the stories I have to tell will fade into oblivion just like my parents’ did and that, I think, would be a far greater travesty than trampling on some reader’s limited sense of self or contrived sense of social correctness.

So to really understand who I am, I thought it might be useful to consider the results of an analysis that was conducted a couple decades ago when it was determined that I fit the Myers-Briggs description of an INTJ pretty much to a T.  Reflecting upon my life and the stories I have recounted, I’m hard pressed to disagree with that assessment.

Myers-Briggs defines the INTJ temperament/personality as follows:

I – Introversion is preferred to extroversion. INTJs tend to be quiet and reserved. They generally prefer interacting with a few close friends rather than a wide circle of acquaintances, and they expend energy in social situations (whereas extraverts gain energy).

N – Intuition is preferred to sensing. INTJs tend to be more abstract than concrete. They focus their attention on the big picture rather than the details and on future possibilities rather than immediate realities.

T – Thinking is preferred to feeling. INTJs tend to value objective criteria above personal preference. When making decisions they generally give more weight to logic than to social considerations.

J – Judgment is preferred to perception. INTJs tend to plan their activities and make decisions early. They derive a sense of control through predictability, which to perceptive types may seem limiting.

The following are summations of extracts from various INTJ descriptions I have found on the internet. INTJs tend

  • to pride themselves on their independence;
  • to reject authority when it is based on tradition, rank, or title rather than merit;
  • to believe that feelings should be subordinated to logic;
  • to challenge assumptions;
  • to rely on fact, not opinion;
  • to know and accept their strengths and limitations;
  • to know not only what they know but what they don’t know;
  • to be very pragmatic;
  • to avoid making decisions without first thoroughly considering alternatives and consequences;
  • to approach problems looking for solutions outside the box;
  • to prefer to work alone;
  • to take the lead only when their leaders aren’t up to the task;
  • to appear cold, indifferent, and/or insensitive;
  • to believe that small talk and social rituals are pretty much a waste of time;
  • to place greater value on relationships at work than play;
  • to place great value on harmony and consistency;
  • to subordinate their own desires when they perceive a need in others; and
  • to be loyal and protective.
Want to know more. One can easily identify the INTJ just by reading his/her t-shirt.

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In the opening sentence of this blog I acknowledged the view that autobiographic blogging may be perceived by some as narcissistic. Well, the thought occurred to me to find a test that I might use to settle the issue and that’s when I discovered Psych Central. Fairly convinced that this anecdotal effort by its nature is at the very least an act of extreme self-absorption, I took their test and discovered that I do not even remotely fit the profile. I find solace in that.
My Total: 10

Between 12 and 15 is average.
Celebrities often score closer to 18.
Narcissists score over 20.

Individual Narcissistic Traits and Scores
Authority: 5.0
Self-Sufficiency: 2.0
Superiority: 0.0
Exhibitionism: 2.0
Exploitiveness: 0.0
Vanity: 0.0
Entitlement: 1.0

Below is a brief interpretation of each narcissism trait and what my score relative to that trait indicated about me. The results seem to reinforce the idea that I ‘yam’ who I ‘yam’ — an INTJ.


Authority refers to a person’s leadership skills and power. People who score higher on authority like to be in charge and gain power, often for power’s sake alone. You scored particularly high in authority, suggesting you see yourself as a leader or as someone who values power.


This trait refers to how self-sufficient a person is, that is, how much you rely on others versus your own abilities to meet your needs in life.


This trait refers to whether a person feels they are more superior than those around them.


This trait refers to a person’s need to be the center of attention, and willingness to ensure they are the center of attention (even at the expense of others’ needs).


This trait refers to how willing you are to exploit others in order to meet your own needs or goals.


This trait refers to a person’s vanity, or their belief in one’s own superior abilities and attractiveness compared to others.


This trait refers to the expectation and amount of entitlement a person has in their lives, that is, unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with one’s expectations. People who score higher on this trait generally have a greater expectation of entitlement, while those who score lower expect little from others or life.

Curious to know just how narcissistic you are?

Click here and take the quiz yourself.


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You know you’ve encountered an INTJ if he/she is wearing a t-shirt that reads:

  • Let’s play hide and seek, I’m it!
  • I’ll try to be nicer, if you’ll try to be smarter.
  • If you can read this you’re standing too close to me.
  • I’m not trying to repel you with my personality, that’s just a happy coincidence.
  • Intuit how much I care.
  • Ask me how I’m feeling today.
  • Tiny print that reads  “Stop staring at my chest.”
  • My shirt has words on it.
  • Back: Wait here. I will be right back.
  • I’m not mean; you’re just a sissy.
  • Who are you and why are you reading my shirt?
  • WARNING: I don’t care.
  • Of course I don’t look busy. I did it right the first time!
  • Front: What am I thinking? Back: I’d tell you but you’d never get it.
  • Non-relational people have feelings too!
  • I have an opinion. You won’t like it.
  • Don’t annoy me. I’m running out of places to hide the bodies.
  • If I don’t respond just stop talking.
  • Say NO to hugs.
  • Front: It’s not that I don’t like you. Back: It’s just that you’re not that interesting.
  • I can only please only one person per day, today is not your day.
  •  That’s enough social interaction for one day
  • I’m not ignoring you. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

If you fail to grasp the humor, you’re  definitely not an INTJ.

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